Why Do I Have A Fear Of Flying? - Pure O ?

Why Do I Have A Fear Of Flying?




anxiety disorders and phobias or sum up
the hardest disorders to diagnose
there are no chemical tests for blood
tests in is one of those things where
until recently doctors and friends and
family
would just say is all in your head and
you just need to control it better
often family members can even make fun I
love and be pretty cruel to the family
member that has afflicted with this
condition
I saw something very said growing up in
the eighties when my dad would suffer
from anxiety
and back then you couldn't really just
call someone up and tell them about your
problem
or even go to your doctor to get help
now my sister would often be the biggest
skeptic my dad she thought he was often
overreacting on letting is anxiety
control in
that was until we were going to fly down
to Florida for vacation one year
and my sister had always said she had a
phobia when it came to flying
but we never believed her but on the way
to the airport she just could not sit
still
it was getting worse and worse and by
the time we got there we all knew there
was no way we were getting her on that
plane
so we just had to go back home and pack
up the car and drive
it turned a seven day vacation into a
four day vacation
but at least now my sister knew how my
dad felt when it came to anxiety
and from that point on she became more
than allied to my dad that she had been
in the past
defending him when he was having an
anxiety attack to people they didn't
understand it
she also has since gone to counseling to
help deal with her anxiety
and the good news is she is even Plone
sense looking back now I gave my sister
a pretty hard time about her flying
incident
that was until several years later I
went offline something unexpected
happened
I don't know if something changed in my
brain or I just heard in the news a
story of a plane that had just crashed
but I was experiencing the exact same
thing as my sister when I was getting
ready to board that plane
I had never experienced a panic attack
before but now I knew what it felt like
now some up you have had an issue up
trouble with flying
you remember the first time it happened
you know how helpless you feel
you think you're coming unglued in your
skin is crawling
and you feel like you can't breathe in
your heart is racing and if you like the
walls are caving in
and you have tunnel vision and your head
is ringing and that you could pass out
at any moment
that's what a panic attack feels like
and that's what I was having that day
actually boarded the plane but as soon
as I got on it felt like I was totally
confined in there
I had to get off everybody there thought
I was crazy
but I didn't care and now I understood
what my sister felt like
and knew I would never make fun of her
again and felt really bad
now that I knew what it was like to
experience a panic attack and had a
flying phobia
I had to figure out a way to get past
two because my job requires me to fly
I tried everything counseling drinking
before the flight
or drugging myself up but I still
couldn't do it but after a year I
finally found a program that helped me
and I'm able to fly again without the
fear and without feeling like I'm going
to pass out
where you are right now you may be
someone who suffers from panic attacks
from your phobia of flying
and you think there's no way I'll ever cure fear of flying
and none of your friends or family can
understand well you're listening to the
voice of someone right now who doesn't
understand
someone that knows what you're going
through and how hard it is
please there's a link on this page
somewhere click to find out about a
program that can help you
if you're watching this video and it's
on YouTube or someplace else
click the link in the Information
section and find out more information
and get started forgive those folks
close to you that don't understand
despite what they may say about you
getting help don't let them stop you
I believe you can no matter what anyone
else thinks
good luck and God bless you

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Pure O ?




andquot;Hi, this is Charles. I've been asked to speak
about 'Pure O', or the form of OCD or anxiety
disorder that causes people to have aggressive,
sexual or inappropriate thoughts of any kind.
Now obviously, obsessive compulsive disorder
is what it says it is. It's obsessive, it
causes compulsions and it's a disorder. I
dislike the term 'disorder' because the term
disorder tends to suggest that people are
ill. People with anxiety disorder, OCD, phobias,
agoraphobia, and panic disorder, they are
not actually ill. They have a condition which
is caused by inappropriate levels of anxiety.
So, in other words, the anxiety response gets
switched on and doesn't get switched off again.
It gets reset at a higher level, benchmark
level of anxiety.
Now, with Pure O, which isn't a form of OCD
by the way and OCD isn't what you might think
it was either. What it is; when people have
high levels of anxiety, the brain and body
prepare for action in the 'flight or fight'
response. The 'flight or fight' response causes
the body to prepare itself physically, for
either fighting or fleeing a potential threat,
so the muscles become primed, the cardiovascular
system, the digestive system slows down. All
sorts of changes happen that cause all of
the symptoms that you would associate with
anxiety and panic. But what happens in the
subconscious mind is the body again is preparing
for action, now the way it does this is to
ask lots of risk assessment questions. Now
you may have heard this being refereed to
as, andquot;What if?andquot; questions. andquot;What if?andquot; questions
are questions which look at the most outlandish
ultimate consequence of the situation you're
in. So it searches into the depths of your
creativity to try and make a risk assessment
about what 'might' happen. Now, under normal
situations, for example if you are driving
along in a car and you turn a corner and you
are on your own and it's night time and you
turn a corner and you see a car upside down
on the road and there are two people strapped
into it and smoke coming from it. You jump
out of your car and you're immediately in
the 'flight or fight' response, which is appropriate
because there is obviously a potential danger
there -- to you and to the other people. Now
at that point, your body springs into the
'flight or fight' response and starts priming
your body for action, so it makes your muscles
stronger, it makes you lighter, it does all
the things that need to happen in order to
make you more efficient at either fighting
or fleeing from the potential threat.
But your brain starts asking questions -- it
has to do a risk assessment. That risk assessment
works by saying, andquot;What If I do this? What
If I do this action and the car blows up?
What if I get a stick and break the window
and drag the people out? What if there's petrol
leaking and it sets fire?andquot; This is happening
at incredible speed in your subconscious and
your subconscious mind has just gone into
absolute overload gathering information through
your nervous system, through your senses,
your eyes, your ears, your nose, your mouth,
your skin. It's making an assessment of the
situation. And all the time, all of your sensory
organs are feeding back to your subconscious
mind, so that a sensible decision can be made,
very very quickly, about what you are going
to do.
Now, you can see how sensible this is -- you
can see how 'physiologically' this makes so
much sense. So you get to the point where
you've made your risk assessment, you understand
the situation, you've assessed the area to
see if there's anything that can help you
or whether there's petrol leaking, all those
sorts of things, and then you take the most
appropriate reaction that your subconscious
has made the decision to take. At this point
your physical self comes into action. So if
you've decided to pick up a log and break
the window and drag the people out, that's
what you do and your adrenaline fuels the
strength that you need, the agility you need,
the speed and everything else you need to
carry out the decision that your subconscious
mind has made.
Now then, in anxiety disorder, clearly you
have the same level of anxiety, all the time.
So you have inappropriate levels of anxiety,
so inappropriate levels of adrenaline in your
blood that are preparing your body for that
situation. Now let me explain, if for example,
if I open a door, if we are stood outside
a room and I open the door and I push you
into the room and there's a lion in there
and I close the door behind you and you're
in the room with a lion, straight away you
go into the 'flight or fight' response because
it's either you kill the lion or you die,
or you somehow subdue him. So you have to
make a very quick decision. Your adrenaline
pumps round your body, you mind start asking
andquot;What ifs?andquot; -- andquot;What if I fight him, What
if he eats me? What if he bites my arm off?
What if I pick up this chair and smack him
round the head?andquot; All of these questions are
going on in your subconscious mind to make
an appropriate decision about what to do to
either kill the lion, pin him down or to get
out of the room or whatever.
But, obviously if I push you into that same
room and shut the door behind you and you're
still feeling those senses of anxiety that
you did before when the lion was in there,
but there's no lion there, there's no real
threat, you can understand how your levels
of anxiety are inappropriate. So, in other
words, your anxiety is false anxiety, it's
false fear, because you're sitting there now
at your computer listening to me, you may
or may not be experiencing high levels of
anxiety. I'm perfectly calm; an anxiety disorder
sufferer could be experiencing the symptoms
and the feelings of anxiety coursing around
their body, even thought they know there's
no potential threat in their environment and
nothing is going to happen to them.
So, let's go back to the beginning again.
You've got a situation where you've jumped
out of your car; you can see some people in
a car, upside down on the road. You have to
make some decisions, your anxiety levels go
appropriately high and you make the correct
decisions and not only that but you take the
right course of action, at the time, based
on those decisions. Alternatively, you're
sitting in your room; you're looking at your
computer, you know there's no threat around,
there isn't a burning car or a tiger or anything
else, but you still feel anxiety.
Now then, the anxiety that you're feeling
now sat at your computer is inappropriate
anxiety but it is still having the same physical
and psychological manifestations as it would
if you were in that situation with the tiger
or with the car. So you're sat there, you're
heart may be racing, you're body is becoming
primed for action, it could be that your stomach
is churning, you've got IBS, you've got sweats,
you've got palpitations, you could feel dizzy,
you could feel numbness in your face and head,
your neck, your shoulders, your left arm might
feel heavy -- all the things that you associate
with anxiety disorder might be happening to
you, right now, sat in front of your computer
-- but they are inappropriate things.
So, you're in two situations, one is appropriate,
one is inappropriate. Now you're sat at home
and in your environment, like you were with
the car overturned in the road, you're looking,
around assessing the situation. So your nervous
system and your senses were feeding back to
you all of the data with which to make those
decisions during an appropriate anxiety response.
You've still got that anxiety response, but
now you're sat at home in front of your computer.
But your body is still primed and ready for
action, there's still adrenaline in your blood
stream. But the other thing that is happening
is that your mind is still looking for those
andquot;what ifs?andquot; It's still doing a risk assessment,
but it's doing a risk assessment based on
your environment. It's feeding back from your
nervous system the things that you need to
know about your environment to make a correct
decision about how to react in the situation.
But it's a non-threatening situation. You're
sat there with your kids, you're sat there
with your wife, your husband, you're sat there
with relatives, you're at a party, you're
at a wedding, but you still feel anxious.
And all the time, your brain is asking these
andquot;What if?andquot; questions, doing these risk analyses.
So what happens with them? Your senses pick
up on things in your environment. You see
the kids and you get the thought, andquot;Oh! What
if I harm my kids!andquot; You see your wife, andquot;Gosh!
Imagine if I killed my wife!andquot; You'll be sat
with a member of your family, even a male
or somebody of the same sex, and you're thinking
to yourself, andquot;What if I did this sexual thing
with them?andquot; You see it in your minds eye,
but you know, know consciously that you'd
never do those things. They are so inappropriate
and so against everything you believe and
they disgust you and you don't want to discuss
them with anybody, but its all part of the
flight or fight response. They are risk assessment
thoughts. That's all they are.
Now, what do you do about them? Well clearly,
what you need to do is reduce your anxiety
level and that's what we do. I'm not trying
to sell the Linden Method to you; I'd love
you to try it because I know it works to do
this; but 99% of our clients have these inappropriate
thoughts, either constantly, at varying times,
or at times of higher stress or higher anxiety,
or during a panic attack, but without any
fail people have these thoughts and this is
not OCD, because OCD is obsessive compulsive
disorder. These aren't obsessive thoughts,
these are inappropriate thoughts based on
the 'flight or fight' response. Do you see
how that makes sense?
Now, I had these thoughts too, so I know about
this. And I had them constantly for about
six years. I'd be stood next to somebody,
a same-sex person, maybe a member of my family,
and in my minds eye I could see myself doing
the most grotesque things to them; aggressive
things, sexual things. And I was thinking,
andquot;I must be going mad this can't be right.andquot;
To have these thoughts is just overwhelming;
but no, they were completely appropriate to
the level of anxiety that I was experiencing.
I also had OCD, but that came and went really
and it was more to do with contamination issues,
especially in childhood I had that. OCD is
a different thing. 'Pure O', as people call
this, gives the impression that somehow 'Pure
O' is related to OCD. It is in as much as
it's fuelled by the anxiety and these andquot;What
if?andquot; thoughts, but it is different in as much
as that there isn't a compulsion involved,
so there's no action, there's no practicing
of a physical action. So, 'Pure O' as its
called, these inappropriate thoughts is just
a separate symptom of an anxiety condition;
of panic disorder, generalised anxiety disorder,
in the same way as agoraphobia is another
symptom of a panic or anxiety disorder.
Now, OCD, 'Pure O', these inappropriate thoughts,
can all be cured by addressing the subconscious
anxious habit that fuels them. What do I mean
by 'subconscious anxious habit'? I mean the
habit that you have created in your subconscious
mind, using your absolutely incredible superior
creativity, which every anxiety sufferer has,
without exception, because without it they
are not able to somatize this condition -- in
other words, think their way into it, but
it's their creativity that fuels and builds
and retains the anxiety response and the anxiety
disorder, deep in the subconscious mind, in
the part of the brain responsible for the
anxiety reaction. Because the anxiety response
is stored in that particular way and because
anxiety and fear is the only emotion that
is adaptable to your environment, because
it has to be; when you move into a dangerous
environment, your anxiety levels have to rise;
and when you move out of that environment
they have to fall. So, if you live in a dangerous
country and you move to a non-dangerous country,
you adapt to that environment. The way you
adapt is that your sensory organs 'see' that
environment, feed it back to your subconscious
mind, and your subconscious mind says, andquot;Well,
I don't need to be as anxious in this situation.andquot;
Then your anxiety is suppressed and a new
behaviour is formed; a new non-anxious habit.
But, if you have an anxiety disorder, or anxiety
condition, your anxiety levels go up to a
higher level and they 'fix' there. Your thoughts
and the environment that you build for yourself,
as somebody with an anxious habit, feeds back
to the subconscious brain and what happens
is you develop this anxious habit that is
stored and perpetuated in the part of the
brain responsible for the anxiety response.
I hope this makes sense, I'm doing this very
off-the-cuff because this has been requested
by somebody who brought my attention to the
fact that perhaps I ought to tell you a little
bit more about this situation. So what's the
solution? It is to undermine and remove the
subconscious anxious reaction that fuels and
perpetuates the anxiety at its core. There's
only one way to do that and that's through
structure, support and guidance and through
relevant, structure, support and guidance.
Support and guidance provided by people who
know exactly what to do to teach you how to
create an environment for change that will
undermine and remove your anxiety disorder
forever. It's the only way to do it. There
is no drug that reaches this part of the brain;
there may be a drug that reaches that part
of the brain, but that can't selectively select
the neural pathways of learning that are responsible
for this habit, this behaviour. There's just
nothing that can do that, it would be difficult
to do through surgery, let alone anything
else; in fact, you'd destroy so many other
brain cells with medication or surgery that
could address this area of the brain, that
it just wouldn't be worth doing. There is
no medication that can reprogram the specific
neural pathways that you need to reach in
order to overcome and eliminate your anxiety
disorder completely. It's impossible.
So medication can't do this and the only way
to do it is to talk to people that have done
it. Those people are the people that we have
helped over the twelve years that we have
been doing this. And myself, I've done it
myself, and I know how to do this. My staff
are trained in building the environment for
change that you need to overcome this, completely,
very very quickly. Very quickly and in fact,
those thoughts stopped in me within two days
of starting this structure. Within two days,
my panic attacks stopped, my derealisation
and depersonalisation stopped and these 'Pure
O' thoughts stopped. They stopped completely.
They went away. My anxiety took a little bit
longer and it died down over, maybe a few
weeks really, until it was completely gone.
But it was completely gone because I no longer
had that subconscious anxious habit, fuelling
the thoughts -- fuelling my disorder; and
the thoughts went completely.
I hope this explains what I'm trying to get
across to you and I hope it makes complete
sense because 115,000 people helped so far
and by the time you watch this video it will
be more people. Look on our YouTube site,
Facebook site, look on panicandanxiety.com
at the comments we get from our clients. Look
at the videos, testimonials. You'll soon see
that there is nothing else that touches this
solution -- nothing else in the world. We
know this works, I know this works. If you
don't try it, you're not doing the thing that
absolutely every recovered anxiety sufferer
has done to completely well. We can provide
the structure, the support, the ongoing support,
the material, the advice and the experience
to get you well. Hopefully you'll take us
up on this. So, I hope this has all made sense
to you. If anybody wants me to do anything
else; explain any element of this in more
detail or to do any other videos, please contact
me through Facebook, YouTube, through the
sites, through stopworry.com.
Take a look at panicandanxiety.com, because
it is slowly becoming a resource for videos,
like this one, and other information that
will help you guys to understand what we do
at the Linden Centre really does work. Anyway,
I'll say goodbye; I've waffled on enough and
I hope you've enjoyed or found something useful
in this video. Take care.andquot;

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